Dear Akshay Kumar and Malaika Arora,
Bengaluru Molestation has stifled all of us AGAIN. Many of us have raised our opinions, expressed our rage and some of us just went numb. You also have not been behind and jumped in the #YesAllWomen bandwagon.
The Bangalore incident makes me feel we r evolving backwards,from humans to animals,rather beasts coz even animals are better!Truly shameful pic.twitter.com/FJwJ80Mkby
— Akshay Kumar (@akshaykumar) January 5, 2017
So, I went out with my girlfriends to party on the crowded streets of a Metropolitan city, they came out in large numbers and molested us…… But my safety is my responsibility so… The next time I went to a discotheque, it was enclosed and had bouncers, they came into the place and beat us up and ripped our clothes off…….But my safety is my responsibility so…. I went to a movie with a Male friend for company, they pushed me into a bus and shoved an iron rod inside my privates…….But my safety is my responsibility, so…… I went to my college, fully clad in a "decent" salwaar kameez, they caught me around a corner and squeezed my bum……But my safety is my responsibility, so…… I decided to stay at home in the comfort of my own house, they broke down the door, tied me up and videotaped the things they made me do with them…….But my safety is my responsibility, so…… I went back to live with my family feeling safe and secure with them, they were my uncles but they didn't think of me as their niece when they made me take off my clothes and have their way with me…….But my safety is my responsibility, so……. These days I sit in the bathroom, locked tight, not coming out at all. They stand on the terrace opposite to it peeking in through the bathroom window, but I don't take a bath…….because my safety is my responsibility……. Now, they have me exactly where they have always wanted me, my spirit broken, my ability to fight back gone, my will to do something destroyed…..at their mercy…..still stuck in the bathroom…..dreading the time when the knocking starts on the door as they come to get me here too. I am that Indian Woman who can excel at sports, win medals for the Country, join the Army, become a CEO, go to the outer space and be the talk of the world…..only if I can come out of this bathroom……But my safety is my responsibility, so…. Disclaimer: Girls wearing short clothes and drinking and partying are copying the Western culture.Boys who molest them r copying the Indian culture???
But do you really have a face to voice your condemnation on this matter? Or is it Bollywood’s double standards charade yet again?
It is you who taught us that ‘No’ means ‘Yes’ via your various bollywood portrayals of women actresses succumbing to the actor’s persuasion.
It is your item numbers which objectify women in the most demeaning way. What disturbs even further is that you continue highlighting women as objects of desire, with only their bodies to offer.
It is you who showcased that stalking is just another ‘healthy’ way to win a girl’s heart. You stalked the women to the point where they had to say yes.
You did not leave any opportunity to over sexualize women in your movies. You displayed women as sex objects who does not have her own say. You exhibited women as just a body with no self respect, thinking power or integrity.
You defined masculinity as keeping women under control. You equated raping a woman to being a ‘man’. You ensured that a man is always stronger than a woman in your movies. You told us that being macho means overpowering women.
And yet, you have the balls to come out and condemn Bengaluru molestation? If you really feel for the women out there, make a pledge today that you will not be part of a movie which condemns women in any manner. Do you have the guts to say ‘no’ to movies which have ‘Munni badnaam hui‘ and ‘Sheila ki Jawani‘ songs? Do you have the courage to go beyond the mainstream cinema and only do thoughtful movies?
We have a few sensible folks in your industry, yet the majority of you still follow the same old path. When you raise your voice next time for something, please make sure you are not shoving your double standards under our throat. If you really care, let your actions and decisions as a bollywood artist speak!
Until then, please don’t pretend that you care!
A Common Woman who really cares!