My husband and I have been married for 7 years now, engaged for 8. Being in love, and hating each other to the extreme, our romance has always been a pendulum. We have been through our phases of ups and downs, pre-marriage, post it, pregnancy and now we are parents of a beautiful 3 year old monster. Being extremely different individuals, our phases have been mostly the lows. 2 very strong egos, 2 very harsh tempers, and 2 extremely opinionated thought processes. From getting the parents involved in the fights, to friends taking sides, to counselling, we have done it all. And we are still going strong-ish.
The romance has changed forms, but it is there. It is there in the smallest of the things. We both realized that we just have to look for it. Especially with a small 3 year old tyrant loose in the house, who demands all of our attention and affection, our romance for each other changed forms. A baby does not leave any time or energy for big romantic gestures. But the trickle down to the smaller, not-so-obvious things, makes that romance all the more treasured.
Here are the Little things that “HE” does for his wife, 7 years and one baby later which has kept the romance still alive:
1. Him making tea for her 1st thing in the morning and the last thing before she goes to bed. (Because he knows that his is the only tea she really enjoys)
2. Him calling and asking her every time while coming home if she needs anything from the store (Because he knows that due to the baby she does not have the luxury of going out whenever she pleases)
3. Him getting a chocolate for her every time he gets something from the store, which he slyly hides from the toddler.
4. Him not making her get up early morning , even when he has to leave home early, and leaving the house after getting ready very very quietly.
5. Putting out the garbage bins before leaving the house every day.
6. Being in charge of the cleaning supplies in the house, right from the detergent powder to the loo cleaning liquid. (She does not even know the names of any of the brands in that department)
7. Him cleaning up the mess at night after the toddler has finally fallen asleep.
8. Him Messaging her “Hey” at least once in the day, just because.
9. Him Seeking and respecting her opinion on any important work related issue.
10. Him Filling up the drinking water filter every day.(Because he knows that is the one chore she hates).
11. Him Giving her time off from the baby and the house to have some time for herself, at least once a week.
12. Him Respecting her choice of faith.
What binds us together is our very strong similar ethical base. We don’t agree on anything else, but morally we are very very same. We are definitely not the best 2 people to be together, but we are here, and we are going forward together. Stumbling, pushing, falling and sometimes flying.